Originally Posted by laino
Laino here. I'm the mono husband of Lola. One thing I have noticed from one of our experiences (I say "our experiences" as a mono partner is also part of the poly partners relationships.) is that kind of sitting outside of the NRE the non-involved partner may notice "red flags" quicker than the involved poly partner. Just an observation.
By the way, it is nice to be here.
From my perspective, this seems pretty true for us. He sees things I don't see and on occasion I even see something here and there.
It's nice to know someone has your back, even when they are trying to point out something that might be wrong or just questionable. That is, after all, them caring enough to help you avoid a few pitfalls.