Glitter-yes, there were some expectations for me to do what I consider "other people's emotional work" for her. I don't intend to change.
I think it is reasonable for me to meet with her, clear up the conflict and let her know what she can expect from me (not "what will I do for her"-but what she can expect I normally behave like).
Thank you for the reminder not to let myself be challenged to do other people's self-care.
"Love As Thou Wilt"