Originally Posted by nycindie
I think you are confusing other types of non-monogamy with polyamory. What you've described is simply group sex. You and your partner participating in a few sexual encounters with several people isn't poly. I suggest you keep reading the forum, and perhaps look into one of the books in our recommended reading thread. Maybe poly is for you, but maybe not. It sounds like possibly swinging would fit what you and your wife are looking for much better.
I would have to agree with you Cindie.
I don't feel like the two of you have really had poly experiences, it just sounds like swinging. When it comes to the other woman, did you just start having these long conversations and your wife found out or did you ask her if it was okay first. I feel that everything that happens in poly or any marriage/relationship for that matter needs to start with you two talking it over first. If not, there's too much room for jealousy.