Originally Posted by Esperanza
Me being with someone who has a mental illness DX? Not likely. It is a red flag.<snip> I can date, and best of all, maintain a loving relationship whenever I am in one.
I hope you get what I'm trying to say.
Nope. I understand what you're saying about the importance of being on and staying on the appropriate meds, but the other thing I'm getting from this post is that you would not date someone with a mental illness diagnosis, but want others to be willing to date you.
Unless you mean it's a "red flag" for yourself, in that you know you would not be able to deal with it due to dealing will all your own stuff. That's fair, but the way you say it makes it sound like a mental illness diagnosis is something you see as a bad thing, which makes me question how you plan on finding relationships, seeing as how those people will have to be okay with your diagnosis.
For myself, it's something to consider and be cautious about. I have to protect not only myself but my children, so if someone I date has a mental illness I need to know how they cope with it and how I need to cope with it in order keep everyone safe. But I've known LOTS of people with one degree of mental illness or another, and most of them function well enough in everyday life most of the time, so it's certainly not an automatic reason to cut them out of my life.