Originally Posted by RestlessMoon
Of course, friends and others say, "Oh, just make a move on him, and if he's into you, then you'll know." But that just seems kind of shady without explaining the situation first, ya know?
Extremely. If a friend of mine that I knew was in a relationship and thought was monogamous glomed onto me, my first reaction would be to push that person off me.
I currently have a lady friend that I see regularly (we love each other but have decided an official "relationship" is not what we want) and we started as "friends with benefits." From what I've seen and experienced, "friends with benefits" transitions quickly into something else and rarely stays simple.
Its not a bad idea, but you should prepare yourself for the possibility of one or both of you developing feelings beyond simple benefit-yness.