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Old 09-08-2012, 01:44 PM
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Originally Posted by lovefromgirl View Post
In fact, look at your own damn triggers and examine whether you can even tackle the topic from a levelheaded place. I can't debate abortion rights; I can't stay calm, and my bias will always show. I have my reasons. Since I know how I'll react (i.e. RAAAAAGE) I don't get involved.

Then leave the teaching to the people who aren't going to RAAAAAGE.
This is great. I have been guilty into falling into that anger place a few times, and I really have to stop before hitting the button that posts and think about whether what I am saying is really furthering the conversation or just the outpouring of my own stuff. Sometimes I do it better than others.

I think that a sure sign of maturity is the ability to do this most of the time.
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