Originally Posted by RunningMan
Oh OK... I never really considered a DADT relationship a poly relationship, because it's based on deception and poly relationships are open and honest. So I guess I just want more openness.
DADT isn't based on deception if the people involved have AGREED to DADT. It's only deceptive if one of you makes a unilateral decision to be DADT without discussing it with the other(s) involved. If one or both of you has a problem with the DADT status, that is not "deceptive", it's just someone agreeing to something and then deciding they don't like it after the fact.