Originally Posted by CielDuMatin
If you have decided that poly is a non-negotiable "bottom line" for you, and the other person says "no poly, no way", then in some ways you are saving time by not putting energy into dating someone that is going to be ending it as soon as they find out.
It is very disappointing the number of people for whom poly has that sort of picture, but it is what it is.
I realize that a polyamorous relationship is what I need to make me happy. I was in a monogamous relationship for a combined ten years before coming to this realization and I've never encountered anything that felt so comfortable.
My last relationship was five years, we almost got married, and I figured out monogamy just doesn't work for me.