Power? My gf is a former trained slave and has been more on the sub side in all her relationships. One of my goals is to help her find more personal power. She's in therapy and the therapist says I am the healthiest relationship she's had yet, b/c I am better at communicating than anyone else she's had LTRs with.
My other long term lover is a FWB. He's a lot younger than both of us, and doesnt live w us. Just visits me (and more recently, us) once a month or so. There isnt really any "power" dynamic involved there.
My gf and I both date other people but neither of us has found another serious lasting partner as of yet. But we're having fun trying!
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
Mags (poly, F, 60) loving miss pixi (poly, F, 38) since January 2009, living together since 2013
also loving Punk (monogamish, former swinger, 42, M) since Oct 2015
"Master," (mono, 34), miss pixi's Dom for 2 years