You are already IN a polyamorous relationship.
What you have is a DADT policy inside the polyship that you have outgrown on your end and now find annoying/stifling.
So you have to responsibly inform your partner that the DADT polcy has been outgrown on your side and it no longer meets your wants/needs/limits.
So a new thing is needed. So what is the new policy gonna be? Has partner's wants/needs/limits also changed over time? Where's the temperature at? What other ways could this be worked out? That's a big convo -- so can we just make an appt to start working on that on the calendar? So there's no disturbances/distractions and we have a nice clear block of time to really be together in conversation? Thanks, honey. Love ya!
Hopefully the appt time comes and over a few sessions of discussion a new policy/agreement emerges. (might take more than one appt)
So that for the next (year? something else?) you have a workable thing in place that serves to mutual satisfaction.
Last edited by GalaGirl; 09-06-2012 at 03:52 AM.