Originally Posted by redsirenn
Do you know how his wife and him define cheating? To some an emotional affair is even worse than physical contact/ intimacy. Make sure you are CLEAR that even your deep friendship is supported by his wife and his agreements.
He and I have talked about it, and he says she knows that he and I are close friends (I was worried about that too). I trust him; he's talked on the phone with me several times while she was in the room, so presumably she'd have to be very imperceptive to not notice anyway. I understand your concern (and appreciate it, too); we've talked about it pretty extensively today, and I think we'll just have to settle for being friends. Which is too bad, but at least we'll have each other's loving friendship.
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