Yes, indeed. And why do guys think that it's okay to say to a woman, "Don't invest too much of your heart in me?" Shorty even broke up with me last year when he sensed that I had more feelings for him than he thought I should have. I mean, I am the one who knows how much I can handle, and how much to guard my heart or not. I will make my own choices about how much to invest in a relationship and whether the risk of losing it and being hurt is something I have the willingness and capability of handling. Nine times out of ten, I think the risk of pain is worth it. If I stay very guarded in every relationship, just to avoid possibly getting hurt later on, how can I fully experience the joy, excitement, and bubbling-over-good-feelings that go with it?
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Independent solo polyamorist seeking lover-friends willing to invest in friendship, companionship, and love, but without a need for partnership.
Never confuse commitment with exclusivity, love with ownership, nor sex with intimacy!
For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring.
~ Carl Sagan
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