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I agree that it would be best to concentrate on your relationship with V (and your husband) for now, and let a relationship with a female come about naturally in good time. You're lucky to have V in your life.
Re: Sit. 1 ... would this be someone who stayed at home most of the time (rather than having a job)? Just looking to get a picture in my mind of what you're looking for.
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