I have to go with Opalescent. Is this chick a cowgirl?
She doesn't have to LOOOOVE you but dude! Poly is like waterbed. Fling yourself on there you set MORE than the common partner bobbling about. Does HE acknowledge this? Polymath is polymath, man.
He is also neglecting YOUR relationship. Seeing her so often and neglecting your needs at home.
No wonder you feel ugh.
Get yourselves back in right relationship.
You ---> DH. Know and state your needs and hold him accountable. "Hey man, cool that you are trying to make it work with your GF, but what am I? Chopped liver?"
DH ---> You. Some acknowledgement of what he does or what his GF does affects you in your health buckets -- mental health, emotional health, physical health, and spiritual health. Are they going for minimal bucket slosh? Don't ding you intentionally or thoughtlessly then, please.
You <--> GF. Look, even if she says NOTHING? On the GF ---> You direction?
What are you doing about the You ---> GF direction?
YOU could call her up and say "Hey, I've not received any kind of word from you about this whole mess. We don't have to be best friends or anything, but the polite and common courtesy thing here to do is apologize for making waves with my DH. He is my husband, I live here. I have to deal with the moods here at home when you ding him. So it would be nice if you could also apologize to ME for dinging him and making ugh for me in my home. Treat me with some manners, please. Not make mess in my home life and pretend like it don't happen."
Just my 2 cents.
Last edited by GalaGirl; 09-04-2012 at 01:41 AM.