Originally Posted by lovefromgirl
...because I didn't need a person to myself. I could share. It seemed to me that the people who were best suited to having relationships were already having them.
Just had to chuckle here because it soooooo reflects an ongoing conversation I have been having with Dude. Although he never heard the word "polyamory" until he met me, in retrospect he never had any trouble with any arrangements he had with married women when he was single (which, as he describes them, were FWB situations with women in "open" marriages in the BDSM scene - although he is not into the "scene" himself). (His relationships with mono girls, on the other hand, ranged from "pretty good" to "crazy".)
He says he's only dating married women from now on...
PS. This all stemmed from a conversation we had about wedding rings - he always used to take note of them, and back off - with the exception of occasions when he was already friends with the couple and got "invited". I, personally, never notice them - if I am interested in talking to someone then I do - they may or may not be "available" - either way, that doesn't make them not interesting!