Originally Posted by MeeraReed
You sound intelligent and rational and you are clearly able to do the hard work of dealing with your own insecurities. But I don't think that's what you're dealing with here. I think your husband is besotted and he's asking way too much of you.
yeah, this is exactly the dilemma I'm struggling with. Sometimes I think: suck it up, this is what poly is about, deal with your insecurities and get over it.. and then I think he IS asking too much of me.
He's not besotted though. I've seen him besotted and this is not it. But *what* it is? I have no clue, and I guess that's what so threatening: the not understanding.