I read someone's post on a fb group today that they were dumping the term poly and going with open/fluid marriage instead. It reminded me of a time when I too did the same thing. The term"poly" got so weighted for me I needed to step away from it, see it as an umbrella term and then pick and chose what worked from what I saw. It was a process of making it my own. Well, I own it now I guess. I found my sub-community. I found people that are poly yet have other things in common with me besides that. Finally somewhere to belong.