Originally Posted by punkrockmomma
She wants to work on our relationship agreement, to make sure everyone's desires are met so we don't stray. I'm frightened, I don't want to write an agreement that for me would simply become about protecting myself from this kind of behaviour.
She did this, now wants to "work on the agreement" so "we don't stray?"
The person who fucked up is worried about the other(s) fucking up now? And you "working on the agreement" is supposed to keep her from fucking up again?
Explain to us all what that means so you can see yourself say it.
Now, does it make any sense to you?
How about just agreeing to something then following through?
You being frightened is your body's way of telling you this is some serious fucked-up shit and you need to get yourself to higher ground before the big wave hits.