Originally Posted by newbie1
It is difficult to see your spouse being pleased emotionally intellectually sexually by someone else - it is painful to stand by and often feel like am I not good enough?
Thank you so much for this, I have been very open with my wife about everything and every step of the way. I feel a lot of love for her as I do for my lover. And I think that part of the issue is that she does not feel like she's good enough, which is something I really want to try and help her with (if I can), or something that I hope she is able to get over. I have been with her for 14 years and still completely love her.
I also would love her to be with other men sexually. I find this a turn on, and can even imagine her having a regular lover that she feels emotionally connected with.
I don't know where this will end, but I have to say I have been very encouraged by reading just the little that I have on this forum.