Originally Posted by abjection
Because he said he is completely monogamous, so it is fair to presume that if he is interested in dating her, he is either a) not serious about being monogamous? or b) wants her to split up from her quad.
I am firmly monogamous, but I am in a Poly relationship. The two are not necessarily mutually exclusive. My desire to love only one person does not mean that I'm going to make my Partner do the same.
That said, would I be more comfortable in a Mono relationship? Sure. Being in a Poly relationship is a LOT of work for me, but my relationship with my partner is worth it.