Totally know what you are talking about, isn't it sad? I never was that actively giving advice anyway, but I seldom find the time and energy to even read most of the new posts. I have had this "I don't know where all this drama comes from" realization some months ago and felt quite out of place for not having severe problems while exploring our relationships. Still hoping to read some happy stories from time to time.
Facts: 30, female, bi, v-type relationship with Sward (husband, straight, mono) and Lin (boyfriend, straight, mono), poly-fi and co-primary.