Yes it is a learning lesson - and a powerful one at that. I care too much about other people and often allow myself to be put last...which is my fault. All I want to do is love and take care of my family and was really hoping the could be reciprocated. And yes I feel very used - like she was a single mom with 2 out of control kids and knew that I would feed them take care of them whenever she wanted - and it was expected. I thought maybe we could still be friends - but I can't it hurts too much and I can't allow my husband to be involved with her at all after how disrespected I was by her. And he agrees...but also doesn't like to be mean to people.