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Old 08-27-2012, 08:53 PM
newbie1 newbie1 is offline
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Unhappy Feeling rejected

I feel hurt and rejected...and it is so hard for me to feel this way. My husband and I both agreed to finding a 3rd - a bi-female to join us. We thought we found that ... well he thought he found that. While she was a nice girl - i always sensed she liked him more - which for her was more natural - since apparently she wasn't bi and never had tried it before. But as time went on I began to feel like an outsider and the hubs was blinded by NRE. Which is understandable - he had a shiny new toy.

But after we had some conversations and a separation from this 3rd she is still calling him and texting him and him alone. I had told him this was not what we had discussed before we ventured into this poly life. He agrees...but now I feel like I may be holding him back from what he needs - he says I am not but after feeling rejected emotionally i am just very vulnerable now and not sure what I want to do. All I know is I love my hubs and want him to be happy - and not stand in his way.

But we both agree that the feelings have to be mutual so no one gets hurt. Does anyone have any positive stories to share? Maybe to give us some hope of finding love and happiness? Or does this just happen over and over again?
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