Originally Posted by DrunkenPorcupine
And I think that's what the "definition" and "categorization" of relationships are, ultimately. The understanding and honoring of boundaries.
I think this speaks to the difference between when definitions and categories are prescriptive and not descriptive. Prescriptive definitions are about meeting outside criteria, while descriptive ones describe what is without applying criteria.
I've been contemplating starting a thread about this, but basically, when something is prescriptive, it seems that many of those boundaries are placed by factors outside the relationship and not grown from the needs of the people within the relationship. It's like trying to make a pre-set mold for the relationship to fit into. I've found it very difficult to thrive in prescriptive relationships like that.