There are a lot of folks in the Southern Tier who are looking to do social gatherings, which I think is the best way to meet other poly folks in a non-pressured environment, but there never seem to be enough around at the same time. Folks come in, post something, then don't stick around long enough for a large enough group to form - by the time the next person comes along, they have moved on...
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