Originally Posted by nycindie
Hi and welcome!
Every relationship, whether polyamorous or monogamous, has its own unique qualities. It all depends on the people involved, what they are looking for, and are willing to create for themselves. Polyamory is simply the practice or desire to have multiple loving relationships -- there is no common "type" of relationship nor specific poly "lifetsyle" to adopt. So, what kinds of relationships do you want? How do you envision making that happen?
I suggest you do some reading around this forum, read some of the stories in our Blogs section, check out our Golden Nuggets forum, and perhaps pick up a book on poly - there is a thread with suggestions for reading material. Any specific questions, please feel free to ask!
I wonder how many confuse polyamory with just being plain old sexually promiscuous and using "well I'm polyamorous" as an excuse? I've certainly encountered a few men who said they were poly and I told them clearly they were not, because it's more of a relationship than just having a booty-call friend. It's because you want to be around that other person , you care for them, etc... Suddenly they would say "oh, I guess I was confused, I"m not looking for a relationship'.
Although I'm new to this board, I'm not new to this lifestyle. I suggest reading "The Ethical Slut" by Easton and Hardy. There's lots of good information there. What I got out of it was that polyamory is a CONSENSUAL relationship, everyone knows....EVERYONE..At least everyone 'should' know, but we know that's not always the case.
Good luck to you!