New V relationship and one end expecting more
Can anyone point me to a discusssion/link/book which discusses the relationships between two ends of a "V". One end of my V is needing a monogamous relationship with me and the other end (my long-term husband) is feeling sexual feelings towards her. We have tried to make this clear to him from the start and have bent somewhat due to well-intentioned explorations of his needs which have now been misinterpreted to some extent (allowing voyerism, her giving him kisses on the mouth, etc.). In truth, he has been needy in many ways and insecure in our relationship and we are doing all we can to keep communications open and show him the depth of our love for him. He seems to be struggling equally with the issues of being left out and the issues of being rejected sexually by her. It might help him to see that there are other Vs out there with this structure? Sometimes having it in print and from someone other than me can help him Grock his own feelings. Help?