Originally Posted by coolkat8
I am not sure I can be with someone who does not consider my feelings and respond to emails or follow through with agreements. I'm beyond pissed.
There ya go. That tells you everything you need to know. This isn't working for you--so change it. He appears to be treating you as entirely optional and you've been enabling him in that, so you're establishing yourself as entirely optional in his life.
I'll suggest placing a limit on how long you'll wait for a response from him, and if you don't get one, plan to do something else at the time you wanted to do something with him. He can step up and negotiate ties or not have time with you.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.