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Old 08-21-2012, 03:32 PM
lionessjlf lionessjlf is offline
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Years ago before my current marriage I was a secondary to a married woman. I became very close to her husband on a platonic, spiritual level. I found by 'including' him in my life was beneficial to us all. It enabled me to have even more respect for their marriage, their time alone together. I didn't intrude with their family time. He didn't intrude in our time. It was a mutual friendship and full of respect for each other. I ideally would expect the same of any secondary coming into my life now. I have to agree that forming a friendship with your partners SO is the key to a successful relationship as a secondary. I really doubt things would have gone as smoothly had I been constantly calling her and trying to take her attention away from him or if I hadn't liked him at all, I probably would have ended the relationship.
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