I understand what you are saying.
I quit sending emails to my husband and my boyfriend because I found out that they didn't even READ them. Over 1000 unopened messages in their inboxes over the last year or so.
But, on the other side of the coin:
the week before my period, I tend to be non-responsive to the point of being outright reclusive.
I don't usually realize it until the day after I start my period, and then it hits me (and we all live together) that I haven't had a conversation with either of them in a week!
So, I do think a little give and take is necessary.
BUT-that isn't an excuse for continuously being distant and non-responsive.
I'm not sure the solution-but thought I'd share my experiences as food for thought.