I can't offer any good advice. I can just say that we go through this all the time!! My wife and her secondary(s) I should say. I don't know why it is so hard to communicate or want to be with someone...It is frustrating, annoying, and a down right pain in the ass that the men in our life just don't seem to put in the same effort. Sign me, Guy who cares about feelings and wouldn't do this! lol
Good luck to you.