In the long run, I'd think it'd be better than ask, rather than always have to wonder, "What if I would have asked?"
If polyamory is thought of as an orientation, I might suggest you were somewhat polyamorous but mostly monogamous. Your post was thorough and described your position well.
I hope things go well with your job/s and relationship/s, regardless of if/whether you decide to move.
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"