I'm confused you think 4-5 people with an ethical code is a lot .."so many"
what about me ? full of certitude too ?
the questions and comments I asked had nothing to do with cheating.
You might not like this question either but ...what have you and Chris done or offered to help the struggle spouses? Any of that text time devoted to making things better.
Are you currently operating in a hierarchical manner. Spouses being primary ...others are secondary? How would you like it to be?