Originally Posted by AnneInTheRain
The agreements we have are a firm list, if one of us wants to date somebody who falls outside those parameters (co-workers, people who have no poly/open experience , people under a certain age range), then its up to us to say "I know this is on the list of off limits things/things that you're not comfortable with, can we negotiate this? It's perfectly fine to say no to that, but at least it keeps us aware of what the other person isn't OK with, and keeps us from getting too interested in somebody before making sure to check in.
Thank you! That is a very nice neat way of expressing that. That's a take home nugget for me.
I appreciate it -- because I feel same but was struggling to articulate it as neatly.