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Old 08-19-2012, 04:29 PM
persephone persephone is offline
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Default "Your dance card is full"

I just wanted to share a funny experience I had this morning. I received a very nice email from a well-spoken, attractive, local man expressing frustration with bad dating behavior on a site we are both on. He asked me if I ever felt discouraged about finding partners. I wrote back and told him that I agreed that there were a lot of clueless and arrogant people out there, but I didn't worry too much about it because the site we are on is free and I had had some success meeting people there in the past. I also mentioned that I was in three relationships at present and didn't feel particularly pressured to find more partners. He replied, "Oh well, I guess your dance card is full, I'm out of luck, too bad!"

Now, had this person actually asked me more about my situation and available time, he would have found out that one of my partners is very long distance and I only see him four times a year, another is local but very, very busy and I don't even get to see him once a week sometimes, and I live with the third one. I could very easily have a fourth partner, if I found someone really special. But it didn't sit well with me that new guy decided for me that I had enough partners, so I will not be considering him as a potential new romantic interest, should he write again.

Has anyone else had similar experiences?
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