I agree with everything WhatHappened said. I have a more blunt way to say it. You have a mess. The most courageous and loving thing you can do is go back to your wife exclusively, and work things out as best you can through honesty and open communication with her. Once you know what kind of relationship that gives you WITH HER, decide WITH HER what BOTH of you want from there. Dishonesty is a foundation for nothing.
Last edited by snowmelt; 08-19-2012 at 03:57 PM.