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I'm sure we can be of some help ... Take your time to read some of the existing threads, and post any thoughts/questions/concerns that come to your mind. It is a busy site so don't be discouraged if you feel a little "lost in the shuffle." There are many good people here who want to help.
Sounds like you have a great but challenging situation. Usually it takes a few years to iron out the major bumps.
Good luck and keep on posting.
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