What's the problem in money? What are the wants, needs, limits there?
I fail to see how it's fair for the person who is not working out of home to generate income to pay 1/3 of the house. Couldn't this person take more of a share in the within the household work/chores, and then the working-out-of-home people take a larger share of the financial work? Split the load that way?
What's the problem with introductions? The ladies seem fine so what is the husband wants/needs/limits on that?
What the problem with a schedule?
at this time = closed married polyship of 2 with DH.
Chronic patient = fuzzy brain at times. (If I make no sense in a post, just PM me and I'll happily try to clarify it later.)