I just keep thinking that I'm in the wrong, and if I could just get to where he is with the poly stuff, we wouldn't have any problems. He gives me full support and autonomy to pursue anything I want. This is literally the only thing we fight about, but obviously, the fights are bad.
Also, if anyone can weigh in on this... I don't know how to deal with the friend who unknowingly started this all. I am going to see her at a party tomorrow, and I guess I can try to unconvincingly pretend everything's fine? Or I can tell her what actually happened, or give her some kind of fake version? I have no idea what to do.