Originally Posted by LovingRadiance
If it's meant to be- it will be. If it's not- the opportunity won't arise.
I completely agree! I've had friends ask if my primary and I are looking for lovers just because we decided to be poly. Before our lovers came into our lives, we we had decided that being poly suited us, but we weren't actively looking for people. It wouldn't seem right to me to actively search for someone to love, which is what it means to us.
Thank you for putting it so eloquently!
Don't try to tell me who you are; tell me who you love.
The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it and change. So that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, fear or anger, but in wisdom, understanding and love.
-- Jennifer Edwards