Naturally winding down
Thank you for your kind words. He is really not as much of a douchebag as this all sounds, but I agree that I am the one in charge of enforcing my boundaries and respecting myself. What's going on is that I'm at a place where I'm trying to learn to adapt fluidly to changing situations, and not always try to push things into a partner direction. I have a very high sex and romance drive and want to be able to enjoy people in that way even if they don't meet my standard for a serious relationship. I am also queer (my boyfriend is transgendered), and finding queer lovers where I live is not easy!
Point is, at this point, he is moving away very soon and at that point I think being long distance, occasional lovers will suit us much better.