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Old 08-17-2012, 03:01 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Originally Posted by LovingRadiance View Post
LOL! In addition-we happened upon the detail that made connection/disconnection I was feeling make sense to him (THAT has taken a number of years). It popped out there and we were both like OMG! We just figured it out! HOLY FUCK!
I'm pretty sure he was as shocked as me. We've gone over the topic so many times over the last 14 years to no avail. Then-it just slipped out suddenly amidst our discussion of the argument ... THERE was the clear picture for him AND the solution for us.
FTW. Awesome!

MrS and I had an epiphany 3 or 4 years into our marriage (7-8 years into our relationship) where we realized that what I was really asking for (as opposed to what I said/thought I was asking for) was something that he was actually able to accommodate with enthusiasm. Sigh - so much better now. You think you are talking/arguing in circles and then...something "clicks" - someone hears the words you are saying with new insight and...ENLIGHTENMENT for all.

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