I think that for me it's a yellow flag. It's something that needs to be noted and discussed. I am at the stage of my life where I am not looking for something that is drama-laden, which means that I need the folks around me to be fairly consistent in how they react to things. I don't need to feel like it's a crapshoot each time I interact with one of my partners as to how it's going to go, or whether their illness will cause them to possibly violate agreed boundaries.
That having all been said, there are some folks who haven't been diagnosed with anything who I think are far less stable than some of the folks I know that *have* been diagnosed.
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