So you told him you were poly and wanted to what?
What did you want/need from him?
- Just love me as a poly and know I am this. File it in your internal notebook.
- Just love me as a poly, know I am this AND be open to hearing my inner life so I have some safe (to my mono partner) expression of it -- thoughts and feelings about being poly from time to time. Read my books, articles, see my movies, enjoy me when I suffer crushes from afar.
- Just love me as a poly, know I am this, and be open to hearing about my inner life AND open the marriage to so I can start to date other people and find a new lover.
Those are all different tiers there of want/need. What is your minimum benchmark to be happy in relationship with mono him? (Mine is bolded as my minimum benchmark).