I think it would work out more successfully to spend time with YOURSELF and get your list of wants, needs, and limits sorted out.
If you want to end up with a shot at a cohabitating V and/or triad thing SAY SO. Then you are attracting the people who WANT THAT TOO. Then you can date and negotiate.
Ups your dating success to shop at the right place. Rather than wander all over the store kinda aimless.