See, so many good anecdotes supporting this...
If poly is about being open and honest, then how can you expect to find a good, solid poly relationship if you are not completely open and honest from the get-go?
If you manipulate folks with your "marketing strategy", then don't be surprised if you get manipulated back.
Please check out The Birdcage - an open, friendly Polyamory forum for all parts of New York State
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