My friends gave me excellent advice recently. Most counselors don't advertise their poly-friendliness, but if you find a counselor that supports LBGT, they may be willing to help. I found someone that was a male and helped LGBT, so I asked him and he said yes he had worked with polyamory before.
What's this bullshit about not seeing a female counselor? Our first counselor was a woman. The only reason we aren't going back to her is because she isn't poly-friendly, but she saved our marriage (we just didn't discuss poly there).
The Ethical Slut was written by two women. What's wrong with women giving counseling?!
Sorry. Sexism pisses me off.
"Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is the regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable." - Sydney Smith
Kyle: 27 year old male
Katie (rymmare): 25 year old female
Kids: girl: 5 years old, boy: 3 years old