"greets him with a smile and a beer"?
-refuses to see a woman councelor?
-other women are novel?
-doesn't want to hang with you if you don't act happy?
Maybe I'm getting this wrong, but I would take a good look at how your husband values you in particular and all women in general. If he doesn't place value on women as individuals he is never going to care about your needs as his love and partner and just place expectations on you as his wife