I totally agree with nycindie.
And I also think more people should value autonomy more. Rory's attitude makes me feel like I'm just as important as Alec and she is the one deciding how and when we get to see each other and I don't have to wait around for Alec's permission. Obviously I care about what Alec is feeling but I just wouldn't be comfortable with him and rory deciding what can and can't happen in my and rory's relationship. I also feel like me and rory are a good match in many ways and this is one of them. We both value autonomy very much and couldn't have a "traditional" we-decide-everything-together-as-a-couple type of relationship.