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Old 08-12-2012, 06:27 PM
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What a mess. So, it sounds like he's a liar and a cheater who says he only wants one person YET has a wife who's leaving him, a mistress, and a fuck buddy. That's pretty fucked-up about how to be in relationships, and underneath it all he doesn't seem to have very much respect for any women (and that includes YOU). Your needs will never be met by this guy. Even though you only want casual (and I can relate because that's how I like my involvements, too), you will always feel like some cheap and dirty secret. Hey, go for it if that's okay with you, but if you want to support your sense of self esteem, I'd look elsewhere. One of my boundaries, even in my most casual of relationships, is that I never want to be made to feel like someone's whore, or a convenient slit. Sorry to be so blunt, but my instincts tell me that's all you'll ever be to him.
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